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Some anxiety books read like a textbook. This one reads like a coach in your corner. Barry McDonagh writes for the person in the middle of it, and his single, memorable method is easy to reach for when panic hits.
What this book is about
McDonagh teaches one core response to anxiety and panic, summed up in the word DARE. Instead of fighting or fleeing the fear, you learn to allow it, move toward it, and carry on with your life while it’s present. The approach lines up with the acceptance side of modern anxiety treatment.
Who this book may help
It may help if you:
- Have panic attacks or anticipatory anxiety about having them
- Want one clear method rather than a long menu of techniques
- Respond to an upbeat, plain-spoken coaching voice
- Like having an app and audio tracks to use in the moment
Key tools in the book
The DARE response guides you to defuse the scary thought, allow the anxious feeling, run toward it instead of away, and then engage with whatever you were doing. A companion app and audios give you support right when a wave hits.
Clinical strengths
The method is simple enough to remember under stress, which is exactly when you need it. McDonagh is encouraging and relatable, and the accept-and-approach stance is consistent with what the research supports. Many readers say it gave them their confidence back.
Limitations
The upbeat tone won’t suit everyone, and readers who want detailed science or structured worksheets may find it light. It’s also not a substitute for care. If panic is severe, or agoraphobia is closing your world down, please pair this with a professional’s help.
My recommendation
I suggest Dare for people who want one dependable move they can use anywhere. It sits comfortably next to panic disorder treatment, where you can practice the approach and build on it. Learn the four steps, use the audios early on, and let repetition make the response automatic.
This review is for general education and isn’t a substitute for professional care. If you’re struggling, a licensed mental health professional can help you find the right next step.
Dr. Joseph S. Weiss is a psychologist in Seattle, WA. He works with people dealing with anxiety, OCD, panic, insomnia, and phobias, drawing on CBT, EMDR, and other approaches with strong research behind them. What keeps him in this work is watching people get their lives back, one small step at a time.
